Habits for a Healthy Relationship: Getting to Know Each Other

My boyfriend and I talk every day about anything and everything.

Being a long-distance couple from pretty much Day One, communication has been and still is the glue and the constant in our relationship, which is a great thing!

Though it’s a requirement for us to talk on a daily basis, it’s something we look forward to and it has really helped solidify and keep our relationship as solid as it is today.

Whether you’ve been with your S.O. for a couple of weeks or 10 years, taking the time to get to know each other every day is essential for a healthy, long-lasting relationship.

Are you and your S.O. stuck on how to keep the get-to-know-you stage going? Here are some suggestions that have worked for me and my boyfriend.

#1. Share your days with each other.

The big perk of not text messaging and being with your S.O. all day is that you can do things separately and then share it with them at the end of the day.

The simplest form of keeping this friendship strong is to give them an opportunity to share about their day by saying, “Tell me about your day,” “What did you do today?” or “How was your day?”

This is usually the first thing my boyfriend and I ask and share with each other when we’re having a conversation and though it may not seem big, it has brought us together, bringing growth to our friendship.

#2. Play 20 Questions.

During my boyfriend’s first visit to New York, we went to Barnes & Noble and we ended up flipping through this pad called, “Do You Know Your Bride?” and “Do You Know Your Groom?”

We definitely had fun with it and we learned quite a bit about each other from that, and it was just as fun when we revisited it last month when he came for the weekend.

Have fun with these 20 questions! It doesn’t have to be serious stuff. Depending on how long the two of you have been together, they may be ice breaker kind of questions or more silly and detailed ones.

And it doesn’t have to be a sit-down kind of thing. You can do it at random times and it’s a lot more fun when it’s not planned and spur of the moment.

#3. Share about your childhoods.

I find it to be really interesting to learn  about a person’s childhood, because it affects how we turn out to be as adults, and it’s just nice to reminisce about the happy times and also reflect on how much we’ve matured.

During one of our weekly video chat date nights, my boyfriend and I started talking about how each of us acted when we were kids and how we’ve matured. It was actually filled with a lot of laughs and wows from both sides.

Talking about your childhood with your S.O. is not a everyday conversation topic, but it can really give you a great insight on how they grew up and it may even help you love and embrace them even more for who they are.

#4. Ask for their thoughts on a specific issue or area.

Getting to know your S.O. also means finding out what their opinions and stances are for a variety of topics, whether it be politics or celebrity news.

I don’t think there’s been a topic that has been too touchy or sensitive for my boyfriend and I to talk about with each other. By discussing and sharing our perspectives, we have gotten closer and discovered how in sync and compatible we really are.

Again, it doesn’t have to be a serious topic. It can be something as controversial as abortion or as light-hearted as whether they prefer cats over dogs or vice versa.

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